I recently posted the 38th podcast episode in my series titled Teaching Humanity Remotely, and during that podcast we continued the discussion about the final section of my new parenting book which is called I LIKE HOW YOU SPEAK TO ME… A PARENT’S GUIDE FOR EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION WITH CHILDREN. The book is a true “how to” book for parents, family members and teachers, and the entire function of the book is to lay out the clearest possible model for parent-child communication. The way this parenting book is structured, there is an opening section that outlines what I call the “10 Governing Principles” for communicating with children. That’s followed by a middle section which is actually a short children’s picture book modeled after the 60+ other children’s stories that I’ve released in the past year that all serve to aid in social and emotional growth for children. In this book, since it’s a book about communication, the picture book section is intended to be a model for a parent-child conversation. Then the book ends with a detailed Q&A section which presents the TEN MOST FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS FROM PARENTS (plus one bonus 11thquestion), and it’s that Q&A section of that book that we are currently discussing in my recent podcasts.
Before getting into the 7th question from the Q&A section of the parenting book, I did take a moment in the podcast to mark the difference between BEING and DOING. Obviously, we all have lots of tasks and chores throughout our day, and that’s all about the “doing.” But something we should all be aware of is just “being,” and that means to not always have an end result or a reward system set up for our children. It also means that it’s ok to model just resting. It’s important to demonstrate that we don’t always have to have a quest and that simply spending down time with family and getting joy and contentment from that down time is a reward in and of itself… that’s the “just being.”
In the podcast, we then take a deeper dive into seventh question from that Q&A and that is… “How can I teach my child how to share?” One clear answer to that question is for parents, family members or teachers to model sharing, and when doing it, mark it and note it. Have a conversation about the positive behavior you want your child to demonstrate. We absolutely socialize our children to be the way they are… the way YOU behave becomes a model for your children who are watching and copying what you do.
Taking turns is another way of sharing. If you can teach your child to master skills such as sharing and taking turns, that’s a value system that will enable your child to get along better with other children and with everyone in general.
The next podcast will focus on the 8th question in the Q&A section of the book about effective communication with children, so please stay tuned for that. In the meantime, thanks for visiting and for listening. You can hear Podcast 38 here:
And you can find the parenting guide on Amazon right here: