In this latest podcast episode, number 33 in my series, we continue discussing the final section of my new parenting book which is the Q&A portion of that book.
The book we are referring to is my recently published parenting guide titled I LIKE HOW YOU SPEAK TO ME… A PARENT’S GUIDE FOR EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION WITH CHILDREN which is intended to be a real “how to” book for parents, family members or teachers. As the title directly states, the book is all about creating and maintaining the clearest possible model for parent-child communication.
The parenting book is divided into three sections, and the first section of the book lays out what I call my “10 Governing Principles” for communicating with children. These ten principles are interlocking and essential, and when one understands these principles and exercises the muscle of using them ALL, communication with children will be clear and effective. For ten weeks in a row on my podcast, I examined each of these ten governing principles for effective communication with children, one at a time, podcast after podcast.
Now, we’ve reached a point where we will be using the podcast to go through the Q&A section of the book which is comprised of the TEN MOST FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS FROM PARENTS (plus one bonus 11thquestion). Last week we reviewed the first question and its answer, and this week we’ve arrived at the SECOND question in that section of the book. It’s a question that every parent can relate to: How do I get my child to go to sleep at their bedtime?
In my answer to this question, we once again review the notion of making sure that your family dynamic is filled with the frontloading of agreements AND what the consequences are of not fulfilling those agreements. Bedtime is one of those time slots during the day that is filled with rituals… the bathroom visit, the drink of water, the reading of a book or books and more. You and your child need to pre-arrange the timing and the order of these little rituals and also agree on what happens when the schedule is not met. Everything has to be agreed upon in advance, and nothing is to be altered in the moment. It’s a losing proposition if your child alters the routine and you give in. Certainly, there are exceptions to when bedtime agreements can be altered like for holidays, a party, an event or something similar, but any alterations in the ritual should also be done in advance.
The next podcast will focus on the third question in the Q&A section of the book about effective communication with children, so please stay tuned for that. In the meantime, thanks for visiting and for listening. You can hear Podcast 33 here:
And you can find the parenting guide on Amazon right here: